The passage from middle school or junior high to high school can be a difficult and even scary one for your child. However, with help from dad, your child’s introduction to high school can be a happy and successful one. Here are some tips for a smooth transition into those first weeks of high school.
Before School Starts
If school hasn’t started yet, follow these back to school tips for a successful start to the school year. If it has, remember them for next year.
- Attend any orientation or other pre-first-day event that you can. Every orientation event that you go to with your child will help acquaint both of you to the new people and places that will create your child’s school life for the next four years.
- Set a school routine a few weeks before the start of the school year. Knowing when to get up and get ready and when to settle down and get to sleep is one thing. Actually doing it is another. Getting you and your teen into the habit before the first week of school will make those days easier and less exhausting. Also, a quiet time in late afternoon or early evening of reading will prepare your student for homework time.
- Encourage some independence and self-responsibility. High school students have more freedom and responsibilities than ever before. Helping your child establish good habits and strong boundaries before being faced with keeping track of belongings, assignments, chores, homework, and social obligations all on her own will ensure some measure of success when the time comes.
After School Starts
Keep the momentum going with these tips after the first bell of the school year has rung.
Many schools now offer parents a way to track their children’s grades online. If your school gives you this opportunity, take it. Your child may feel as though their space has been invaded, but it can alert you to problems that need to be addressed before they become serious. It can also aid you in seeing where your child needs tutoring or a less challenging course. On the flip side, you can revel in your student’s academic successes long before that report card comes home.
Talk to your child’s teachers, principal or head teacher, and coaches. Get to know them. One of the biggest complaints from most professional educators is that parents often excuse themselves from the school system. Contacting teachers, even when there’s no problem, shows that you care and that you play an active role in your kid’s life.
Make time for spending time with your child, too. Talk, play, shop, work—just be together. Your child is now a young adult, and while that means that your relationship may be changing, you are still needed and wanted, and for more than just the car keys and spending money.
Help Your Child Stay Connected
Encourage extra-curricular activities that appeal to your child and provide support for him or her to participate. Set up a study area in the home that allows your student a place to tackle that homework quietly and peacefully without interruption or distraction.
If your teen makes a special friend or two (or twenty) or finds that first “love,” set boundaries, but make every effort to make your home a welcome and safe place for the kids to hang. You’ll feel better knowing that your teen isn’t someplace he perhaps shouldn’t be, and you’ll also get an idea of the kinds of peers your child is spending time with and what they are doing with that time.
One of the biggest and most important ways you can help your child through the change from middle school to high school is just to be there. Let him or her know that, despite this newfound young adulthood, dad is still in the picture and will be there for the issues, concerns, and yes, the good stuff too. High school needn’t be the end of the good times, or even the end of childhood. Help make it the fun and happy time it should be!