Here we’ll take a look at some of the most common causes of divorce in hopes that these conflicts can be avoided, and you and your spouse (or future spouse) can remain together through thick and thin.
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Common Causes of Divorce
Infidelity is a nasty beast. It’s often initiated by underlying marital frustrations such as differences in sexual appetites, unrelated interests, resentment, or simply growing apart.
- While statistics vary, it’s commonly understood that 60% of men and 40% of women participate in an extramarital affair at some point in their relationship (whether physical or emotional)
- Infidelity breeds feelings of anger, rejection, insecurity, and depression – all of which can tip off the breaking point for divorce
- Lack of money in a marriage often leads to incredible stress, lots of arguing, lack of communication, and even lying.
- According to a 2014 Huffington Post Poll, spousal money fights are about:
- 46% Frivolous purchases
- 33% Household budgeting
- 26% Credit card debt
- 25% Insufficient emergency savings
- 22% Insufficient retirement savings
Lack of Communication
Lack of communication or negative communication can be toxic to a marriage and quickly negate any feelings of love and respect. A 2012 article in the Huffington Post provides some negative communication trends you try to should avoid in your marriage:
- Inauthenticity: saying “yes” or “okay” when you really mean “no” or you want to talk about it
- Incongruence: saying one thing and having facial expressions that show the opposite
- Win-lose attitude: responding with judgement, blame, or defensiveness
- Interrupting: not allowing the other to talk by interrupting or not providing an appropriate pause
- Impoliteness and negative comments: comments or questions that are phrased in a negative light
These things are good to be mindful of in any relationship, not just a marriage.
Physical, mental, and emotional abuse all play a part in this cause of divorce. According to a 2014 Huffington Post article:
- Victims of intimate partner violence are 85% women and 15% men
- Every minute 20 people are victims of intimate partner violence
- Those who do not divorce their spouse are often facing financial abuse as well and feel that they do not have enough resources to make it on their own
Unhappiness in a marriage might be wholly unrelated to the actual relationship. Unhappiness often stems from the individual, and relates to things they need to deal with inside themselves such as feeling fulfilled, productive, purposeful, important, confident, loved, etc.
When unhappy inner turmoil takes place, it can result in:
- Weight Gain
- Generally negative demeanor
All of which affect your spouse and the success of your marriage.
The average age of marriage in the U.S. is steadily increasing – and for good reason. Getting married too young can be troublesome, here’s what young couples have to watch out for in a marriage, or consider before they get married:
- Lack of money
- Lack of maturity
- Low-quality communication
- Growing apart
- Changes in goals and aspirations
Parenting Style Differences
Kids bring a whole new dynamic to a marriage. You’ll face changes in priorities, overall lifestyle, sleeping habits, etc. It’s important to communicate with your spouse before a baby comes into the picture, consider the following:
- Define your parenting roles
- Create a clear outline of responsibilities
- Discuss expectations
- Communicate about parenting styles
As the general U.S. life expectancy rises, so does the length of our relationships with one another. This means that overall compatibility with our spouse becomes a huge part of marriage.
Compatibility is closely tied to commonality which is found to make marriages easier and more enjoyable in terms of:
- Everyday activities
- Lifestyles preferences
- Location decisions
- And more!
Of course there are areas where you will have to compromise with one another, but having things in common doesn’t hurt.